Monday, February 23, 2009

Well, Since You Asked...

...I'd be glad to tell you a little bit about Mr G, the new guy that I've met face-to-face as a result of internetworking < note, probably not a real word, but isn't it good? Internet + Networking = Internetworking. Obviously. Okay, getting back to the point... Well, let me start at the beginning, sort of.

Pretty recently I joined yet another site. This one is more of a social networking site, than an actual dating site, although there is definitely that element too. It is called TeeBeeDee. A good portion of you wouldn't be interested, because it is specifically aimed at the 40+ crowd. That is where I saw Mr G's profile. He looked nice and interesting, plus he was local, so I sent him a smile. Aw! It is like introducing yourself for the very timid. Like me. He wrote me a note back and we began corresponding. After a short time, he gave me his phone number and I gave him mine...because truthfully, I don't like making the first call. That shy thing, right? So, he called me and we talked a few times on the phone, plus continued with some long emails.

Honestly, he appeals to me in every sort of way. He is a high school math teacher, who also does band and drama instruction. He hasn't been married, but he has been in a couple of long term relationships. No kids, but he is very close with his brother and sister and their kids. He speaks four languages. He plays drums in a band called Thrift Store Hooker. He likes bike riding and things like skateboarding, but he also loves reading and writing. One of the first things he suggested when we talked on the phone was that we read a book together and discuss it. *thump thump* *starry eyes* haha!


Moving on...we had a really long phone conversation on Friday night and he asked if I'd want to do something Saturday night. Uh, yeah! We both worked on Saturday until 6. I said I would go his direction, since I like to see a person in their neighborhood. It always strikes me as a good way to find out things about someone. So, I went out there and picked him up in front of his building. He had chosen a Chinese restaurant that he goes to a lot. We both love Chinese food. Yay! So, we ate and talked. It was very comfortable and he's a very interesting person and easy to talk to. After our meal, we decided to go see what was playing at the theater. It was about 10 by then. It turned out Slumdog Millionaire was starting at about 11, so we decided to hang out and see that. Meanwhile I texted Girlie Girl to make sure she was doing okay. She had Miss Personality over for a sleepover, so I was keeping tabs on them. Handsome Lad was at his dad's. Waiting for the movie we just sat and talked some more. I couldn't believe how quickly that hour passed before it was time for the movie. We both really liked it, not too surprisingly. By then it was after 1, so I just took him home and dropped him off, and headed home myself.

So, to follow up, let me tell you a couple more things...and then you can feel free to give me your opinion. Yesterday, he was working again. He texted me a couple times, but didn't call. I know he works a lot, especially as they are preparing for a play (which he's invited me to come see), plus he has his band and his family. So, he's a busy person. I don't have a problem with that, as between my job and family, I don't have a great deal of disposable time either. So that could actually be a good thing. My point is, that we probably have equal levels of time issues, but I do tend to get insecure if I am not feeling...what? Sort of attended to, I guess. But that is my thing. Okay, also though, there was nothing physical. I mean, I felt attracted to him, but you know how it is...I don't know if he was attracted to me. There was no touching, which as a rather simple person, I sort of rely on to feel like someone likes me. I hear how sad that is, and even how incredibly faulty that way of thinking is, but I'm being truthful. I think all my weird insecurities have a lot to do with not having dated all that much really.

Anyway, I guess all I can say at this point is that I really like Mr G. I guess I'd hope that if we don't end up dating or whatever, that we do end up as friends. I think we have enough in common that it would be easy to maintain a friendship. Since we've only just met, things could go any which way...I know that. But I can't help but feel hopeful. And that kind of scares me. So. Aren't you glad you asked?

9 comments:

The Furtive Wangler said...

That's awesome! Glad for you; sounds like the very least you've found a friend you can hang out with. It was me the other day btw :-)

Churlita said...

That sounds really promising. I know what you mean about the physical stuff. I definitely want to make sure the guy is physically attracted to me, but also don't want someone who is creepy and handsy either. It's a fine line. I hope it all works out. I know a lot of people who are having positive dating experiences lately. I hope it moves my way soon.

laura b. said...

FW: Really, I am very willing to settle for new friends these days. I have lived this long without true love - haha!
I'm glad you returned...good to see you :-)

Churlita: Yes! I mean, I get that someone doesn't necessarily LIKE you if they are touchy, but if they aren't touchy I somehow assume they don't want to touch me, rather than they are being cool and respectful.
I'll send nice dating thought your way...keep 'em coming my way :-)

Mrs. Hairy Woman said...

Since he was in a long term relationship then he isn't afraid of committment.. That's a good sign.. Take it slow and see where this leads.. You only had one date (sort of) and it might take a few times to see where it all goes.. Hopefully like you said you can be friends if nothing else.. Good for you for getting out into the dating scene again..

Tara said...

So far that sounds like you've got a good thing started! Regarding the touching, he might not be sure what to do yet, and doesn't know how comfortable you are about the physical contact. I love that he invited you to the play he's working on!

Best of luck to you, LB! I'm sending you happy vibes.

Pamela said...

Good for you!
I think it was the first time you had met and he was being a good man by not pushing anything physical. So be patient...

laura b. said...

Mrs: You're right about taking it slow. Sure, I get all excited, but in the end I am a pretty cautious person. Thanks :-)

Tara: I'm looking forward to seeing his students perform. I know how hard they've all been working.
And thanks for the happy vibes :-) I am totally cooling my jets here, believe me.

NoRegrets: I know you are right. In the end, I am actually a very patient person and will just see how things progress. Thanks!

movin' down the road said...

I am glad to hear about it! I love me a musician. J's bro is a drummer. HAWT.

laura b. said...

Movin': I always like musicians too. This guy seems to play every instrument there is just about. *sigh*