Thursday, May 8, 2008
What Do We Really Want?
To start, if you haven't already, you should totally read Churlita's post HERE in which she talks about how men and women claim to want the same things....so why do we so often seem to be at odds? The idea tugged at me...what is the problem? I think I may have hit on one possible bit of trickery that is going on here. My thought is, that while men and women DO want the same things, they are completely out of sync about WHEN they want them! And this isn't an original thought...I believe it originated, for me, with another post of Churlita's! Sorry, Churlita. I'm all up in your head! bwahahahaha! Also, this is a gross generality, but bear with me. Women most desire the committed relationship (with the great sex) while they are in their prime childbearing years....their 20's and early to mid 30's. Maybe they get it, maybe they don't. In either case, by the time a woman is of "a certain age", let us say 40's and beyond, she may not be all that concerned with commitment. She's either been there, done that....or she has come to a point where it no longer feels essential. Now we come to men. Again, I am speaking very, very generally, but my thought is that younger men are not comfortable with commitment. They love great sex, but are sort of hoping to have some variety, with maybe a nice, safe standby to go back to...say, a steady girlfriend or wife. It does seem to me though, that as men get older they seem to begin to value commitment more. They see the bonuses attached to faithfulness and trust. And as I understand it, there is no one more into their marriage than older men, whose health and vitality may be on the downslide. So...my thought is that men and women both want great sex within a commited relationship. It is just that women want it when men aren't ready, and men want it when the women are over it. Any thoughts on this? And if my idea has some merit, what are we supposed to do about it? Is that why there are so many May / December romances going both directions? There have traditionally been plenty of older men with younger women, but is this the key to the emergence of the cougar in society, for example? Digame, por favor.