Okay. Listen to this. In my household WTG and I both live there in order to share in the financial responsibilities. My responsibilities are:
-Cable / Internet
-Children's school expenses
-My own personal things such as my car insurance (and help the kids who drive), mine & Girlie Girl's cell phones, and about half the groceries.
His responsibilities are:
-His personal things, such as his truck payments (he has three for his business), his insurance, his cellphone, and about half the groceries.
I take care of my stuff, he his, and we don't get involved with what the other is doing financially or otherwise.
I was going along, thinking we were doing our thing, but today I found out that this is not so. WTG hasn't paid, basically, any of his bills in about two or three months. I knew there was a bit of a struggle with him getting back to work and all following his illness, but I also knew that his dad and brother gave him a fairly substantial amount of money to help him get back on his feet...of course, I was not privy to any details.
Today my oldest son told me his dad started just pouring all of this out to him and told him that he was going to call MY dad for money. WTF? First of all, my dad is not a WTG fan, although he wouldn't want anything to happen to me or the kids. But more importantly, my dad doesn't have the money that WTG always seems to have assumed he does. Plus, as I learned many years ago...he doesn't like being asked for money. It puts him in the difficult position of being the asshole turning you down...or something like that.
Anyway, I am getting off the point. The point being, that we (me, the kids, and WTG for that matter) are completely fucked. Of course I bear plenty of responsibility here for being stupid enough to trust that dumbfuck. Why did I just assume he would take care of things? I guess I must be a dumbfuck too.
I am spilling all this out here and I know how bad it makes me look, but I really needed to get it out. It is a horrible mixture of embarrassing and frightening and I am just not sure what my next step will be. Stayed tuned.