Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Welcome to What Comes Next....

Welcome to the future! 2012 is here and I'm ready. Just returned to work after another long weekend.  Not sure how I will be able to make it through a standard work week after the past couple of abbreviated weeks!

Had a great New Year's Eve. DR and I went to his sister's house for lasagna, board games, and sparkling cider at midnight. I really appreciate how welcoming his family has been....and I'm even willing to learn games for them :)  We ended up staying over there until around 5 am, then we drove on home and went to bed for a few hours.

On New Year's day, we went to the zoo with Kick Back Dude's family.  I was not in picture taking mode at all...not sure why! But there are pictures somewhere and I will post them if anyone sends them to me. The weather has been so sunny and pretty and the animals were so active. It was a really fun, but tiring day.



But here now...listen to this bit of bad news.  Not BAD bad...just, you know, not good.  DR is going to back to NC for another month. I am told his round trip ticket is Jan 10-Feb 8.  His mom would like one last bit of assistance as she gets settled into her new place.  So, I'm not exactly thrilled.  But am I going to be the horrible person who would deny his elderly mother help in getting situated?  That doesn't sound like me :) But honestly, I am feeling a bit resentful.  They had a year and a half to do all of their projects. Also, I'm upset because like when he left the first time, it was presented more or less fait accompli. I tend to think they had this plan in mind for some time.  DR didn't want to ruin at least the beginning of our time together, but by NYE he had to tell me or risk me hearing about it from someone else. 

Anway, if it is really a month, fine. I mean, what is really to be done in this sort of situation? I appreciate his sense of responsibility to his family.  I hope someday I will mean enough to engender those feelings of commitment.  I did have to say, though, that I am not willing to pin all my hopes on some date they've laid out. As I've seen, anything can happen.  So when he is at the airport then I will get excited again about his presence in my life. I'm going to try and enjoy this week, wish him a nice trip, and then just wait and see. I seem to be alright at doing that.

11 comments:

silly rabbit said...

Wow. I can see why you might have those feelings! And I know you are not the sort of person to keep him from helping his elderly mother. That's a real pickle.

But I am opting to believe that the month will go fast and that soon your life together will be firmly in place!

DR has a good woman in you!

NoRegrets said...

Hmm... I think you have the right attitude. You'll see him when you see him. And consequences will occur if it needs to...

MrManuel said...

Haven't been around in a while, but looks like I cam back at the right post. I had forgotten that he was back, but now it seems like he is leaving again. I truly hope and pray that it is just as short as is intended. I know how long the last time turned out to be and you don't deserve that and all your feelings are valid.

silverthoughts2 said...

That's going to be hard, but hopefully the month goes by quickly. And maybe it'll be a good thing...after not being together for so much time being apart again might help the adjustment process.

laura b. said...

Silly: I do understand about family responsibilities. But I sure hope this is his last extended stay in NC for a good long while.
Thanks :)

NoRegrets: Right...things happen. All I can do is more wait and see.

MrManuel: Good to see you!
Yeah, he's only been here a couple of weeks. A visit...and now back he goes. If it is a month, I can deal with it. Any longer and I'm not sure how I will deal with it.

Silver: That is probably a really good way to look at it. A little extra time to adjust. Thanks for your positive attitude :)

secret agent woman said...

Agh. Waiting is hard. I know it's a small wait compared to the year you've just been through, but still.

laura b. said...

Secret: Yes, if it wasn't on the tail of an already long wait I know I wouldn't be as grouchy about it.

Tara said...

I'm sorry he has to go back. I can definitely understand the resentment.

laura b. said...

Tara: Even though a big part of me knows he's doing the right thing there is that nagging little part that goes "grrrrrr!"

I'm so happy to see you :)

BrightenedBoy said...

First of all, happy New Year.

Boy, that situation with DR sounds difficult. I really don't know what to say, other than that you seem like a nice woman who deserves to be happy.

laura b. said...

BB: Happy New Year to you...and thank you! I have high hopes for happiness this year. I hope you do too :)