Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Guy She Said She Knew Well and Sometimes Hated

On this Talk Talk Tuesday I'm gonna come right out and admit that I am not a huge fan of the telephone.  I mean, I recognize it as a necessity...I am incredibly dependent on my cell phone these days.  I like being reachable and being able to check in with my children.  What I don't care for is making idle chit chat.  Not that I don't like idle chit chat...nothing wrong with it...just not on the phone.  I am distracted on the phone, not being able to see the person I'm talking to, I think. 

However, there is no denying that the phone has become important to me, in my long distance relationship.  I am more or less forced to rely on the phone.  I appreciate that we have that option.  We don't have to make expensive long distance calls, it is "free" for us to talk.  And just because of the situation, DR is really the only person I make the time to talk with by phone.  Anyone else, I tend to get them on their way ASAP.

When I was driving to work today, I heard this old Jim Croce song....

 Operator, let's forget about this call
There's no one there I really wanted to talk to
Thank you for your time
Oh you've been so much more than kind
You can keep the dime
-Jim Croce "Operator"

So, Talk Talk to me about your phone feelings.  Do you enjoy a good gab session on the phone?  Find it a fun way to pass the time?  Or is it not really your thang?  Come on, let's Talk Talk!


MrManuel said...

I love the phone as long as the other person is engaging to talk to, too. I hate being on the phone with my dad as there are so many lulls where I am just waiting for him to elaborate, I end up counting the seconds until I can get off.

Tara said...

It's not really my thang. Like you, though, it's a necessary thing since most of my brothers are in different states. Gotta keep tabs on my nephews.

I like to talk to a few friends on the phone, but I have to actually be in the mood to talk on the phone.

One long distance friend gave me her phone number recently, but I haven't called her yet.

Maybe that's why I like Facebook so much - even without the phone contact, I can still reach out and remain in contact somehow.

Ananda girl said...

Like you, my phone is my link to family and therefor required.

Randy and I did not rely on the phone as much as the computer, which we spent hours on daily before I moved down with him. But sometimes those contacts... to be able to hear his voice meant very much.

Since moving here, I hardly use my phone at all. I require it for job hunting, but otherwise, ignore it as much as I can. I too am distracted by the fact that I cannot see the person and well, I've got other things to do than chit chat.

Pamela said...

Well, it's a good way to keep in touch. You lose your friends otherwise when you move to another location. Or lose them at least faster without the phone. It's kinda nice to only have a voice - no distractions.

3GirlKnight said...

I'm very much a 'get down to business' phone call guy. No idle chit-chat for me either.

A phone conversation is an exercise session for me. I pace. A lot. I seem to have a hard time sitting down when I have a longer conversation on a phone. I have no idea why.

laura b. said...

MrManuel: haha! That's funny...your dad sounds like a lot of people I know who are just inept phone talkers :-)

Tara: Looks like we are phone twins too :-D I tend to kind of put off making calls, but I don't mind some back and forth messaging or emails. I'm not sure why.

Ananda: I would love to be able to use the computer more to be in touch with DR. Unfortunately, in his rural area he has a dial-up line that is very slow. He's not online much, so the phone is it.

NoRegrets: Yeah, and I think that is why I've had a problem staying in touch when I move or leave a job...sad, but true.

3GK: Oh my goodness, I do that too! I sit for awhile and then if the conversation goes on, I am up and pacing. How funny :-)

secret agent woman said...

I am definitely not a phone person. My mother is the only person I talk to on the phone regularly - maybe every other week. But I really rely on visual cues so I vastly prefer to talk in person.

Churlita said...

I hate talking on the phone. I can't see the other person's reaction to what I'm saying and so it makes me babble too much. Plus, I'm on the phone all day at work and am sick of it by the time I get home.

laura b. said...

Secret: My mom isn't much of a phone person either...if we lived further apart, I'm not sure what we'd do! haha!

Churlita: I do that too...either babble, become awkwardly silent, then step on the other person's words as they finally try to break the silence :-) I'm glad not to have to do too much phone time at my job.

BrightenedBoy said...

My thing is this: I tend to want my time at home for myself. I talk often on the phone with my birth-mother, who lives in another state, but generally speaking I go out when I want to see people and stay in when I don't.

I often have short phone conversations with friends to plan outings and sometimes just to catch up, but generally I'm not much for very long conversations on the line.

laura b. said...

BrightenedBoy: That sounds sensible. If you want to connect, do it in person if possible! That is definitely my preference as well.