1. The people around you will react exactly as you imagined they would. If you knew they wouldn't be any real help, I assure you they won't. The people you normally count on will save the day for you.
2. Medical personnel have a difficult job, but don't let them leave you out of the loop, dismiss your concerns, or treat you like an idiot. If you want something from them ask for it as clearly as possible and they will usually work to accomodate you.
3. Don't let yourself get so tired that you become ineffective. You need to stay sharp.
WTG is still very ill. They are saying pancreatitis...he is on a ventilator, his kidneys have shut down, as has basically his whole gastro-intestinal tract. Not even a right bastard like him deserves this kind of thing, so I continue to be his advocate. When he gets well he fucking better appreciate all me and the kids have done. And he might want to consider kicking his precious brother and dad to the curb. I will never forgive them for the way they have acted during all this.